I wish I could say that I am open to all the feedback at all times, but I can’t. In fact, I’m much better about it in my professional life. But let a friend give me their opinion, thoughts, or advice and my knee-jerk reaction is “you don’t know my life!“.
I just don’t wanna hear it. In reality, does anybody ever really want to hear it?
While some criticisms aren’t always impactful, there are some nuggets of information that just get under my skin.
The ones that I’ve thought about or noticed myself but don’t say out loud.
Now, that friend is overstepping boundaries, they need to mind their business… but it doesn’t make what they said (or what they may have confirmed/revealed for you) any less true.
Big businesses ACTIVELY pursue our feedback, both good and bad so they can uncover their areas of opportunities or their wins. With this feedback, campaigns are created, strategies are adjusted, and it brings them awareness to their blind spots.
Imagine if we accepted our friend’s insights in that same manner? Instead of brushing it off, you took it into consideration. Instead of quickly changing the subject, you lean in and ask that friend to elaborate their concern.
Our friends (especially close friends) and occasionally family, have this amazing gift to share with us that can be a major key to unlocking our growth… perspective.
Taking someone’s sound advice doesn’t make you a failure at life or weak-minded.
As much as we would like to believe we know what is best for ourselves, there are some points in our lives where we simply can’t. Whether it’s stressors at work or a potentially toxic relationship, it’s hard to see which way is up when your judgement isn’t clear.
My challenge for you is simple: Try to stay open and receptive to feedback from a friend. Resist the urge to reject everything they say. Reflect on its truthfulness, then YOU decide what that means for YOU.
While some may fall to the wayside, maybe those answers you’ve been searching for are closer than they seem.